Joyous Birth Members - Connie's Birth Story
The story of Nathanial John Davis is more then just his birth story.
So this post is going to be kinda long but you can skip ahead..Nate's
birth story begins way before his creation in my womb.. But back when I
first wanted children with my husband...
I marked off where Nate's birth story starts with *********
I met Ryan when I was only 14 years old.. He was my first lover and
my best friend... Our relationship was rocky in the beginning but when I
was 16 we decided we wanted a baby and we began trying in February. It
was a month before my 17th birthday my grandmother was hospitalized and
died..During this time Ryan came and stayed at my families house *he
lived in a town over an hour away*. I found out about a week after my
17th birthday that I was indeed pregnant. I had no clue but we went to
an Aerosmith concert and I had gotten a weird kind of sick.. I went to
see a doctor and he told me to come back when I had symptoms he could
cure... Which led me to another doctor the day after. I then found out I
was indeed pregnant..
Sometime in there I had been told I had genital warts.. I wasn't too
worried about it but when I found out I was pregnant I was told I MUST
get my cervix froze or I could not have the baby vaginally. I know now
this is absolute bull**** but I listened to the doctors and scheduled to
have it done...I was just four months pregnant when I had it done..
After being told it wouldn't hurt...The doctor "accidentally" froze my
outer lips and the gun thingy was frozen to the walls of my vagina. He
had to rip it away from there. I went into physical shock in his office.
Throwing up and I could not walk.. He told my dh * who was not yet my
dh* to take me home and put me to bed...The next week I miscarried my
baby...when I called the same doctor who had done the kryo he called in
some codeine and told me to take it for the pain.. the end...
My parents still let him live with us and I was scheduled to get on
the pill. When I went in for my check up and to get the pill, I was told
I was already pregnant.. To this day I haven't figured it out.. Ryan and
I had used birth control after my miscarriage.. Our doctor told us that
I may have gotten pregnant before I had my miscarriage.. Any thoughts on
this?
With pregnancy #2 Ryan and I saw a reputable OBGYN clinic out of
town.. I gained 9 pounds over my original weigh after losing a bit my
first trimester . We went to all our visits and took all the tests they
told us too. We took lamaze and made a birth plan. I had four
ultrasounds and was told they were 100% positive it was a girl.. I was
due July 10th and I went into early labor at midnight on July 10th
*lol*. I went into the hospital that Sunday morning at 6:30 am and was
at 3 cms.. After an hour I still hadn't changed much but the doctor
thought she should break my water anyway.. After even more time of not
dilating fast enough she suggested I get pit... Then the nurses started
coming.., Pushing drugs on my saying how hard it was going to get .. I
ended up with stadol, demerol, and epidermal, internal monitors external
monitors... and they used vacuum on the babies head.. At one point this
doctor and the nurses stood about 3 feet from my bed and where talking
about my baby dying.. When I head I started to cry and ask WHAT??WHAT?
She snapped at me " If there is anything we think you should know we
will tell you.. Now grow up"... When it came time to push I couldn't
feel anything so they had to tell me when to push... Around 6 in the
evening on the 10th I gave birth to a normal 7 lb 14 oz baby BOY....He
had all his shots and paperwork done.. He was circumcised a few days
later.. I continued to receive verbal harassment while I was forced to
stay in the hospital..
We decided right away we wanted another baby. It took me a yr to get
pregnant and I was due with baby #3 towards to end of April 96.We had
already decided that we wanted a midwife it just took finding one. We
found a great birthing clinic but they had legal trouble and were doing
only home births.. Not what I wanted but I wasn't going to a hospital
again.. I gained about 50-65 pounds with this pregnancy but was
otherwise healthy. During this pregnancy we took bradley classes and I
learned about the horrible details of circumcision.. At my home visit
the end of March my midwife moved my due date up to April 15th.. On
April 7th I started labor... I got to 5 cm and for some reason my labor
stopped cold.. After some words with my midwife ..She thought I had some
"mind stuff " to deal with and to take off and relax.. We did just that
and I am sure she was right.. But it wasn't until a week later on April
14th I went into labor again.. The midwife arrived about 5 pm and after
a loud couple hours of transition, my water broke.. I was at 7 cm then
all the sudden it was time to push and NOW! Not even two pushes and
Ronin Lee arrived in our arms.. I felt it I saw it and I held him right
away... It was wonderful. He had a lot of bruising on his head from
being so low so long but he was healthy and busy.. He was not circ'ed..
But he did get his shots.. And he had horrible colic for 7 months...
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After Ronin's first birthday we decided we wanted another baby in our
family. During this time I stumbled upon Charity's home page about
unassisted home birth. Her life and faith amazed me. It made me want
even more to have a child in my womb and to bring it into our home with
just our family there..
We tried and tried.. Then in the end of August we sat down and
prayed together in agreement before God that we wanted another child in
our family. I found out 4 weeks later I was about 3.5 weeks
pregnant...Due with baby #4 June 5th '98. The first trimester I was
terribly sick and I lost about 15 pounds.. I had the stomach flu and we
moved away from my home town to another state were I knew no one...I saw
a doctor until February, when I went in from a leg pain and the idiot
did a forceful vaginal exam and told me I was just too fat- It was all
in my head.. I later found out I had this pubic bone separation thing
*can't think sorry*. DH and I prepared for the arrival of our baby.
Around the 20th the baby dropped and thought I thought it was early
I guessed our baby would be here the next week. The following Tuesday
(26th) I started having contractions .. I KNEW I was in labor.. During a
contraction around 7 pm I felt this two little pops and commented to dh
how weird they felt.. Then I stood up and my water went everywhere.. I
thought at first I was peeing but it wouldn't stop... DH and I stayed up
until about 10:30 waiting for it to really kick in but it never did... I
was exhausted and told him I had to try to get some sleep because I knew
when it was time I wouldn't be able to sleep. I was awakened all night
long every 10-20 minutes with contractions..
This continued until after 10 am the next day. I hd called our midwife
in Oregon to ask her for advice and she told me to lay down and rest and
take care of my "mind stuff" *lol*Well I laid down to sleep and my
contractions got closer and closer.. At about 1:30 I gave up on sleep
and tried to relax through contractions. I was having horrible back
labor and trying to relax was not easy .. I could not find a good
position I would go from my knees to my side and back again .. I was
getting very tired and thou the time went by fast I started to give up
around 3:30...Dh got very worried around then and he and MIL talked to
me and tried to keep me going.. I never got an urge to push, but about 5
pm I felt like I should try. Ryan checked me and he said he could feel
the entire head and to try and push lightly. It felt right but the baby
would not move.. I pushed harder and his head would move just a little
but then go right back up.. After over 30 minutes ,which was longer then
either of the other boys, I finally started to make some difference. Two
big pushes with everything I had in me, I pushed his head out. Ryan
looked worried and told me I needed to push him out the next
contraction. He had his cord wrapped repeatedly around his neck and face
but I did not know this... I was able to push him out with the next one
and it was an overwhelming and loving experience. To hold my son and to
think about what to do next and hold him .. I wiped the mucus and cream
covering off his face and looked into his eyes.. He was so quiet and I
felt like no other time in my life.. I held him for a while and we
called my parents..
When the placenta began to come I told MIL to get the bowl for it.
It was pretty big but very healthy looking but for some reason it
wouldn't come out.. I could feel it stuck inside of my body .. My first
thought was that my uterus was still attached to my placenta, when we
couldn't uncatch it told DH to call our midwife in Oregon.. She told him
it was that my membranes had got caught on my pubic bone and told DH how
to get it lose. It worked easily.Then I took an herbal bath with him..
He nursed wonderfully right away.. He has been a perfect and healthy
baby boy since he arrived in our arms.. For me my only complaints are
these.. I have had horrible after pains.. The worse I can remember but
they are passing now.. And I got AWFUL hemorrhoids delivering him.. Any
herbal remedies would be great. they are not getting better and they are
TERRIBLE .. *lol*
So that is it.. very very long.... Nathanial John Davis weighed
about 7 to 7.5 pds and was 19 3/4 inches long.. He has thick dark brown
hair which my other boys had thin blond hair.. We got his first name
from an online contest to name our baby and it means Gift from God
which he was.. and John is my dad's middle name..
Hope you aren't all bored..
*Connie Rae*
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