Joyous Birth Members - Connie's Birth Story


The story of Nathanial John Davis is more then just his birth story. So this post is going to be kinda long but you can skip ahead..Nate's birth story begins way before his creation in my womb.. But back when I first wanted children with my husband... I marked off where Nate's birth story starts with *********

I met Ryan when I was only 14 years old.. He was my first lover and my best friend... Our relationship was rocky in the beginning but when I was 16 we decided we wanted a baby and we began trying in February. It was a month before my 17th birthday my grandmother was hospitalized and died..During this time Ryan came and stayed at my families house *he lived in a town over an hour away*. I found out about a week after my 17th birthday that I was indeed pregnant. I had no clue but we went to an Aerosmith concert and I had gotten a weird kind of sick.. I went to see a doctor and he told me to come back when I had symptoms he could cure... Which led me to another doctor the day after. I then found out I was indeed pregnant..

Sometime in there I had been told I had genital warts.. I wasn't too worried about it but when I found out I was pregnant I was told I MUST get my cervix froze or I could not have the baby vaginally. I know now this is absolute bull**** but I listened to the doctors and scheduled to have it done...I was just four months pregnant when I had it done.. After being told it wouldn't hurt...The doctor "accidentally" froze my outer lips and the gun thingy was frozen to the walls of my vagina. He had to rip it away from there. I went into physical shock in his office. Throwing up and I could not walk.. He told my dh * who was not yet my dh* to take me home and put me to bed...The next week I miscarried my baby...when I called the same doctor who had done the kryo he called in some codeine and told me to take it for the pain.. the end...

My parents still let him live with us and I was scheduled to get on the pill. When I went in for my check up and to get the pill, I was told I was already pregnant.. To this day I haven't figured it out.. Ryan and I had used birth control after my miscarriage.. Our doctor told us that I may have gotten pregnant before I had my miscarriage.. Any thoughts on this?

With pregnancy #2 Ryan and I saw a reputable OBGYN clinic out of town.. I gained 9 pounds over my original weigh after losing a bit my first trimester . We went to all our visits and took all the tests they told us too. We took lamaze and made a birth plan. I had four ultrasounds and was told they were 100% positive it was a girl.. I was due July 10th and I went into early labor at midnight on July 10th *lol*. I went into the hospital that Sunday morning at 6:30 am and was at 3 cms.. After an hour I still hadn't changed much but the doctor thought she should break my water anyway.. After even more time of not dilating fast enough she suggested I get pit... Then the nurses started coming.., Pushing drugs on my saying how hard it was going to get .. I ended up with stadol, demerol, and epidermal, internal monitors external monitors... and they used vacuum on the babies head.. At one point this doctor and the nurses stood about 3 feet from my bed and where talking about my baby dying.. When I head I started to cry and ask WHAT??WHAT? She snapped at me " If there is anything we think you should know we will tell you.. Now grow up"... When it came time to push I couldn't feel anything so they had to tell me when to push... Around 6 in the evening on the 10th I gave birth to a normal 7 lb 14 oz baby BOY....He had all his shots and paperwork done.. He was circumcised a few days later.. I continued to receive verbal harassment while I was forced to stay in the hospital..

We decided right away we wanted another baby. It took me a yr to get pregnant and I was due with baby #3 towards to end of April 96.We had already decided that we wanted a midwife it just took finding one. We found a great birthing clinic but they had legal trouble and were doing only home births.. Not what I wanted but I wasn't going to a hospital again.. I gained about 50-65 pounds with this pregnancy but was otherwise healthy. During this pregnancy we took bradley classes and I learned about the horrible details of circumcision.. At my home visit the end of March my midwife moved my due date up to April 15th.. On April 7th I started labor... I got to 5 cm and for some reason my labor stopped cold.. After some words with my midwife ..She thought I had some "mind stuff " to deal with and to take off and relax.. We did just that and I am sure she was right.. But it wasn't until a week later on April 14th I went into labor again.. The midwife arrived about 5 pm and after a loud couple hours of transition, my water broke.. I was at 7 cm then all the sudden it was time to push and NOW! Not even two pushes and Ronin Lee arrived in our arms.. I felt it I saw it and I held him right away... It was wonderful. He had a lot of bruising on his head from being so low so long but he was healthy and busy.. He was not circ'ed.. But he did get his shots.. And he had horrible colic for 7 months...

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After Ronin's first birthday we decided we wanted another baby in our family. During this time I stumbled upon Charity's home page about unassisted home birth. Her life and faith amazed me. It made me want even more to have a child in my womb and to bring it into our home with just our family there..

We tried and tried.. Then in the end of August we sat down and prayed together in agreement before God that we wanted another child in our family. I found out 4 weeks later I was about 3.5 weeks pregnant...Due with baby #4 June 5th '98. The first trimester I was terribly sick and I lost about 15 pounds.. I had the stomach flu and we moved away from my home town to another state were I knew no one...I saw a doctor until February, when I went in from a leg pain and the idiot did a forceful vaginal exam and told me I was just too fat- It was all in my head.. I later found out I had this pubic bone separation thing *can't think sorry*. DH and I prepared for the arrival of our baby.

Around the 20th the baby dropped and thought I thought it was early I guessed our baby would be here the next week. The following Tuesday (26th) I started having contractions .. I KNEW I was in labor.. During a contraction around 7 pm I felt this two little pops and commented to dh how weird they felt.. Then I stood up and my water went everywhere.. I thought at first I was peeing but it wouldn't stop... DH and I stayed up until about 10:30 waiting for it to really kick in but it never did... I was exhausted and told him I had to try to get some sleep because I knew when it was time I wouldn't be able to sleep. I was awakened all night long every 10-20 minutes with contractions..

This continued until after 10 am the next day. I hd called our midwife in Oregon to ask her for advice and she told me to lay down and rest and take care of my "mind stuff" *lol*Well I laid down to sleep and my contractions got closer and closer.. At about 1:30 I gave up on sleep and tried to relax through contractions. I was having horrible back labor and trying to relax was not easy .. I could not find a good position I would go from my knees to my side and back again .. I was getting very tired and thou the time went by fast I started to give up around 3:30...Dh got very worried around then and he and MIL talked to me and tried to keep me going.. I never got an urge to push, but about 5 pm I felt like I should try. Ryan checked me and he said he could feel the entire head and to try and push lightly. It felt right but the baby would not move.. I pushed harder and his head would move just a little but then go right back up.. After over 30 minutes ,which was longer then either of the other boys, I finally started to make some difference. Two big pushes with everything I had in me, I pushed his head out. Ryan looked worried and told me I needed to push him out the next contraction. He had his cord wrapped repeatedly around his neck and face but I did not know this... I was able to push him out with the next one and it was an overwhelming and loving experience. To hold my son and to think about what to do next and hold him .. I wiped the mucus and cream covering off his face and looked into his eyes.. He was so quiet and I felt like no other time in my life.. I held him for a while and we called my parents..

When the placenta began to come I told MIL to get the bowl for it. It was pretty big but very healthy looking but for some reason it wouldn't come out.. I could feel it stuck inside of my body .. My first thought was that my uterus was still attached to my placenta, when we couldn't uncatch it told DH to call our midwife in Oregon.. She told him it was that my membranes had got caught on my pubic bone and told DH how to get it lose. It worked easily.Then I took an herbal bath with him.. He nursed wonderfully right away.. He has been a perfect and healthy baby boy since he arrived in our arms.. For me my only complaints are these.. I have had horrible after pains.. The worse I can remember but they are passing now.. And I got AWFUL hemorrhoids delivering him.. Any herbal remedies would be great. they are not getting better and they are TERRIBLE .. *lol*

So that is it.. very very long.... Nathanial John Davis weighed about 7 to 7.5 pds and was 19 3/4 inches long.. He has thick dark brown hair which my other boys had thin blond hair.. We got his first name from an online contest to name our baby and it means Gift from God which he was.. and John is my dad's middle name..

Hope you aren't all bored..

*Connie Rae*


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